Guide On Being A Good Bar Patron
Some people ask me how I always able to get some unique experience while visiting the bar. I think it is really by chance not by choice. However, I have summarized some general rules on how to behave at the bar.
Be mindful of your manners
Always be aware to your surroundings. This also applies to your attitude towards the bartender. Bartenders are humans too. Use "please" and "thank you" when you try to order or close up. DO NOT snap your fingers at them!
Be patient and be ready
Patience is a virtue. While you wait, take a good look at the menu. Perhaps you can learn a thing or two about those more obscure ingredients and memorize it so you can impress your friends?
Once you have put in the order, you should prepare for your payment. (If you are in Europe, it is likely there will be table service; then you can ignore this)
No name dropping
You might be well connected and know a handful of people. But never name dropping at a bar (or a restaurant). If you really are friends with the owner, s/he likely knows that you are coming
Saying something like "I know the owner" is absolutely a red flag in any situation. Guess what, so does the bartender serving you. Name dropping doesn't get you a better drink or cheaper price, it only shows your entitlement.
Do not be a pest
Bars is a social gathering place and there is nothing wrong with being social at the bar. However, like the founder of Barules, Sam Kuan once says, "Unless you are the utmost, respectful gentleman, don't just strike up a random conversation with female guests."
As well as the house rule of "Milk & Honey" stated, "Gentlemen will not introduce themselves to the ladies. Ladies, feel free to start a conversation or ask the bartender to introduce you. If a man you don't know speaks to you, please lift your chin slightly and ignore him."
Know your limit
You should know your alcohol limit at this point. Do not drink more than you can handle. If you feel like you can't finish your drink, leave it, don't feel like you are offending anyone or wasting alcohol. The bartenders understand it, as part of their job is to make sure none of the guests get over-served.
If you are driving, try asking for a low abv. beverage or non-alcoholic drink instead.
Give the bartender a clue
For those what to order a bespoke drink, give your bartender a better direction and explaining. How about starting with you prefer based spirit, flavor profile and the way of making it. If you don't know any of these, try stating what you don't like or what flavor you are going for. In this way, you are helping the bartender to understand you, so they can serve you better.